This year Darrick and I will be together for 6 years (3 years married), and I must say in these last 6 years that keeping the romance alive was one of the pretty easy parts of our relationship.
When it comes to marriage or relationships many think when you talk about “romance” you are meaning sex, however, there is more to “romance” than that! The definition of romance is a feeling of excitement and mystery associated with love, a quality or feeling of mystery, excitement, and remoteness from everyday life (verb: woo).
Day Dates…with children a lot has changed and the option to get up and go just isn’t an option anymore, many things have to be planned in advance. We still date but sometimes we have to go on “day dates” instead of night time dates. Basically you have to go on the date when you have someone that can watch the kids. We go to early movies (they are super cheap which is a bonus), but also gets a chance to away for a couple of hours and experience the things other adults can do in the evening. Traditional evening dates still happen, but if the only chance we can go out is during the day, we will have a “day date” instead of an evening date. You can also have “day dates” at home…have a picnic in your living/family room…we put a blanket on the floor get lunch together and sit and talk, this can even be done in the evening once the kiddies are asleep!
Just Because Gifts…if there is something you know your mate likes then surprise them every once in a while. For example, Darrick loves Cleveland Browns ANYTHING so if I see something with the Browns on it I will pick it up and surprise him. Same for me…one day I had been gone all day and he had the children all day; well we planned for me to be gone only a few hours but it turned into an all day process. So I was checking on him making sure everything was okay, and I was very apologetic because I hadn’t expected to be gone all day…on top of being gone all day I also asked him to pick me up some lunch because I was STARVING! When he brought the bag with my lunch I immediately started eating and talking because I was HUNGRY but I didn’t look down in the bag…when I went to grab my fries I noticed a box in the bag, he stopped at the jewelry store and bought me a Pandora charm for my bracelet…totally caught me off guard!
Communicate…you wont believe how connected you stay with each other by just communicating. Talk about your day, your goals dreams and aspirations, your highs and lows, your thoughts and feelings. Just talk!!! Even the stupid stuff (whats your favorite mall, and why) Just Talk!!! Simple as that…make sure you take time DAILY to see what is going on in each others lives! Yes you have a life together but you also have your own life, share with each other! Just like you catch up with an old friend…do the same with your spouse (thank me later)!
Be Sexy and Playful in Public…(sorry mom if you are reading) love taps, love grabs, wink your eye, blow kisses, sign something naughty to him, send a text flirty/naughty text then watch him read it (do this in a random place, it will totally catch him off guard…again thank me later), send him love notes to work, send naughty text while he’s at work (work those smiley face emoji’s) or pictures (I think sexting is okay when you are married…right?!?!)…be the flirty girl that got the man even after years of being together. Share a secret love language with your mate that only you and him know! Romance your mate all the time…not just at home!
Dance Together…there is a list of love songs that have special meanings in our relationship. When they come on the radio, dance together like its your first dance all over again. Darrick loves music, he always turns off the TV and turns on some music so no matter if I am cooking, cleaning, or simply sitting down…if one of our songs come on he will grab me to dance. While dancing we talk about our memories with certain songs! Corny…but I love it even though I act like he’s getting on my nerves!
Now these aren’t all the ways we keep the romance…but just a few that stand out in our relationship!
February is the Month of Love, so how to you plan to Keep Your Romance Alive???