Seems like ever since I decided to become a SAHM I have been under some scrutiny from close people at one point or another. And I just don’t understand it. Honestly, I didn’t choose to become a SAHM, actually this life chose me…but Im not complaining! Now I will admit that I have my days…but I know this is a MAJOR sacrifice and a blessing! I love being able to pick Emma up in the middle of the day from preschool and she runs to me screaming Mommy (now that is one of her clear words)! And DJ being attached at my hip…and somedays I’m trying to pawn him off on his grandmother and aunt (I’m human and need a break sometimes) or I cant wait until Daddy gets home because he is glued to him for a while and I get a break…but other times Im down…I love my little munchkins, and even if being a SAHM isn’t permanent I THANK GOD for this time of being home with them.
I hear from moms all the time how they wish they could be home with their children! And once you CHOOSE to become a mom, in my eyes its FAMILY FIRST, FAMILY OVER EVERYTHING…yes, that’s how I roll! I became a SAHM once we realized that I needed to be home with my child who had special needs. For almost the first year Darrick and I both worked and Emma’s uncle kept her part-time…but with that came with scrutiny also. We were basically plagued as DEAD-BEATS…yes, Im sure your mouth dropped because mine did too when I heard some of the things that people said about us!
Sunday when I was listening to my pastors sermon towards the end he said…”Everyone doesn’t know where you have come from, or where you have been” he was basically saying that you may have gone through some things and you may still be going through them but if you stay in God’s Will, whatever goal you are trying to accomplish will come. Dont let obstacles stand in your way! I immediately started crying because I remember starting this blog post but wasn’t sure in which direction it was going so I left it in my drafts…but God has his way of sending you confirmation!
A few days ago Darrick and I were talking about things we had been through in the last 3.5 years, and one of the consistent things throughout everything was our love for each other! No matter what has happened we have been down for each other, and how everyone may not understand it but its what has gotten us through the hard times (we cling to each other).
After our conversation then the sermon Sunday, I came the conclusion that everyone isn’t going to understand your journey. No matter how you live or try to portray yourself, there are just some people that are still going to look at you and feel as if you are doing the wrong thing or you aren’t doing things in the a way in which they think you should be doing it. Or you focus too much on this or that…
But you know what…
That is okay!
Its not their journey! It’s yours…and I received confirmation of that Sunday!
You are not required to explain yourself, you are not required to get them on board! If they are supposed to be in your life then they will get on board but if not then their time in your life must have expired! And I am really not trying to be mean but these were my thoughts. I feel people are in your life for a reason, season or a lifetime…I feel this quote to be truer now than EVER before.
Don’t Expect Everyone to Understand Your Journey, Especially if They’ve Never Had to Walk Your Path!