July 17, 2014

I'm over the SAHM Comments...


"I couldn't do that" (response to being a SAHM)

"So you are with Emma all day long" (while they give me the look)

"You don't have a job...you can do this for me"

(Found out we are having Twins) "You will never go back to work"

"I would go crazy if I stayed in the house all day"

"Must be nice to stay at home all day and do nothing"

"Your parents are retired now...cant they take Emma everyday so you can work"

"Shouldn't your wife start looking for a job now...Emma is older"

"Why do you get up so early...you dont have a job"

"Carissa can do it...what does she do all day anyways"

"You said whats going on with your family...whats going on with YOU"





When I became a Stay at Home Mom (SAHM) I had read arguments from different bloggers on the debate of the "Working Mom" versus "The Stay At Home Mom"...honestly, I never wanted to get into either side because I understood both sides of the debate. When Emma was first born I was still working and I worked up until she was almost 1 years old. Then our circumstances changed and we knew the best option for our family was for me to stop working and take care of Emma full-time while Darrick worked. 

However, even though I never wanted to get into the debate that doesn't mean I wasn't automatically placed in it. I am convinced Moms don't understand how offensive they can be when they say these things to other moms. In my opinion no one understand the "struggle" of a mom more than another mom! I actually empathize with moms when they are placed in tough situations because no matter what your circumstances are being a mom is not easy! 

Above I added a few comments that have either been made to my husband or I about our decision to be a one income family. Now I cant speak for all moms but I do know a main reason we didn't put our daughter in daycare right away is because she has some special needs. As I have written about many times she was born with a Cleft Lip and Palate...Emma has had multiple surgeries and usually has daily/weekly appointments for one thing or another. However, many of the people that have made these comments are fully aware of our situation but that has not stopped the comments! 

I try not to be that person that is offended every-time someone ask about "OUR SITUATION" but I think I am getting to the point where I am getting fed up...Please Keep Your Comments to Yourself! 

Yes, I'm home with Emma daily but unless you are offering some type of support or helping hand then I don't need to hear about "why you couldn't stay at home with your child" (you would do it if you had to)...its a sacrifice and it basically came down to I have to do this for my child and thats it! 

I don't go around giving my opinions on Moms with a job so I am confused on why people feel its okay to say these things to other moms! When these things have been said to me...if I said what was really on my mind I probably wouldn't have anyone talking to me. And that may not be a bad thing; but realistically what is that going to solve? 

Actually I love hearing about the working world...and I hope one day to get back in it because I've always wanted a career outside of the home, but like I have always said this is my path God has me on right now...so unless you are on His level...Please Keep You Comments to Yourself! Its a blessing that I am able to stay at home with Emma and we can bond...and that I will be able to have that same experience with my boys on the way...so if I'm not commenting on your situation I would appreciate you don't comment on mine! 

How do you deal with comments about being a SAHM? 

July 15, 2014

Naming the Twins...

Aren't the babies in the pic below adorable...
I cant wait to hold my own...well I can wait because I need them to bake a little longer! 
(pic)

When I found out I was pregnant the first time (with Emma) Darrick and I picked out baby names. We "just knew" we were having a boy...well until the ultrasound and found out it was a girl. Darrick knew he wanted to add Emma to the baby's name because he wanted to honor his mom who is deceased and because he loves family names. I agreed and we named her Emma (Emma was also my great grandmother name on my mom's side)...we then went back and forth on a middle name, I wanted her to have a name that wasn't family related and Darrick said lets name her after her grandmothers. Once word got around to my mom I knew there was no turning back (she actually cried a little bit)...she was named Emma Renee! 

After we had Emma we knew we wanted more children. Darrick has been saying "twins" for a long time now (talk about speaking something into existence)! He's wanted two boys...and he even went as far as naming the two of them WAY before I was pregnant. The first baby will be named Darrick Vati II after my husband, and the youngest baby will be named Douglas James (sounds kind of historical/civil rights leader-ish, right LOL)...well our youngest will be named after his grandfathers.  Darrick (my husband) was a name his family came up with, and Vati (pronounced Va-Tie) was his God-Father's name. Darrick didnt want to use Jr. he wants the II so he will be Darrick Vati II. 

In keeping with the tradition of using family names like Emma Renee...Douglas is my father's middle name and James is Darrick's father's middle name. On my side Douglas has been passed down from my father's grandfather, to my father, to my nephew (my sister's son) and now my son. The name James is a common name in Darrick's family from his father, uncle and brother's middle name. 

Seems like we need one more to name after me! HA! 
I kid, I kid...this family is done growing after the Twins!!! 

How did you decide on your child/children's names? 
Do you use family related names? 

July 11, 2014

Pregnancy Updates (Weeks 20 & 21)...

I just crossed over into my 22nd week of pregnancy...but I will be updating you on my last two weeks of pregnancy! 

Overall I have been feeling good...I have only been sick a few times, seems like its cut down a lot since the last time I did an update; which I am VERY thankful for! 

Week 20-After Church

Week 21-Getting Ready to Go See Fireworks on July 4th

How Far Along? 22 weeks

Size of the Babies? According to my phone app they are the size of a Papaya 

Maternity Clothes? Yes...EVERYTHING except my yoga pants that I wear religiously! They actually make a great maternity pant! Fortunately, I can still wear all my maternity stuff and haven't had to go up a size even though I feel like it! 

Weight Gain? I actually havent weighed myself in a while...the last time I was at the doctors (about two weeks ago) I was the same...so holding at the 12lbs. I go to the doctors today so we shall see if I have gained more or stayed the same

Stretch Marks?  On my Belly only

Gender? Boys

Names? Darrick Vati II and Douglas James

Sleep? Ummm what's sleep? I sleep for about 2 hours at a time get up and use the bathroom then go back to sleep for about 2 hours...you get the picture! 

Cravings?  Fresh fruit (mainly strawberries) and sour candy. I stocked up on candy earlier this week so hopefully this craving will end soon! LOL!

Belly Button? In

Best Moment? Feeling them move on a consistent basis...they are always moving and I love it! No matter how many times you get pregnant I feel like this part never gets old! 

July 09, 2014

"Keep Momming"


“I participated in a campaign on behalf of Mom Central Consulting (#MC) for Shire. I received a promotional item as a thank you for participating.”

Raising a child at any age is challenging, and when it comes to mothers and daughters, the dynamic can be even more complex. What some may dismiss as “typical tween girl behavior” can sometimes be symptoms of something more serious. Research suggests that girls are more likely than boys to report having mostly inattentive Attention- Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) symptoms. Since inattentive symptoms can be less noticeable than hyperactive and impulsive symptoms, it is important that moms know what to look for.

That’s why I’m pleased to be joining Shire, CHADD and Holly Robinson Peete to announce the launch of keep momming, a new public service initiative geared towards the moms of tween girls to raise awareness of ADHD.

The campaign is anchored within a new digital hub, KeepMomming.com, where you’ll find tips, tools and other go-to resources for moms, including a checklist to help recognize the symptoms of ADHD – inattention, impulsivity, and hyperactivity – and then encourages moms to talk to their daughter’s doctor. The keep momming initiative can help moms learn about ADHD and provide ideas on how to spark a conversation and stay connected with their tween.

Check out Holly’s message about how she keeps momming http://goo.gl/MR8HL2, and don’t forget to visit KeepMomming.com.

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